That’s one way of putting it…but how do we define weirdness?
Is Aunt Tilly’s predilection for hosting tea parties with garden gnomes as guests – weird? Maybe so.
But Uncle Walter doesn’t care one way or the other. He only sees that it makes Aunt Tilly happy, and so, works extra hard to make their garden a beautiful spot for her to enjoy her tea.
I would argue it’s more about matching someone’s perception of reality.
My perception of someone else’s weirdness is colored through the lense of my own experience, thoughts, feelings in the same way that ten different witnesses to the same crime can report conflicting observations. Our perceptions, the things we “see”, are unique to each of us.
This fact is further complicated by those folks who fool themselves into creating a reality that doesn’t really exist – refusing to see anything other than what they want to see.
It is no small wonder why the human race is at such odds with one another. So many opinions…and each thinks the other is wrong – haters hate, lovers love – blinded by a perceived reality of their own design.
Maybe we should take a page out of some 17th century wisdom.
“For whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee…No man is an island, entire of itself”
But what do these phrases actually mean and how does it apply to us today?
John Donne is referring to the human condition.
For whom the bell tolls – signifies an individual’s death.
News flash – we all die, every single one us. But Donne tells us that each death offers valuable lessons, if only we can properly understand, if we have eyes that can “see”. He speaks about hardships as blessings. Because it is mostly through tribulation that people grow as individuals, expanding their consciousness, learning and gaining new insight. According to Donne, these are the things in life that are more valuable than gold.
No man is an island – refers to the fact that each of us are pieces to the whole of mankind. Thus every death holds meaning because we all share the human condition. In other words, whatever happens to our neighbor – can happen to us too. Does the bell toll for you? Or for someone else?
Take a moment and endeavor to see reality through someone else’s eyes. Who knows? Maybe, just maybe, your perception will expand and possibly change.
And if not? No matter. You will, at the very least, have gained insight into another’s definition of “weird”.